etiquette / tips for interacting with someone who is using aac ( from some one who uses aac ) .
not an exhaustive list . feel free to add on . /gen
do not try to read what they are saying before they say it . ( personally , some one watching my words as I type them or find buttons on my aac is stressful . I feel like I am being rushed . )
similarly , do not guess what they are saying before they are done saying it . ( so , do not “ finish my sentences for me ” . you are interrupting me speaking , when you do this . )
do not play music or loud noise when some one is using an aac app / device that needs to be heard . ( it feels the same as speaking over , interrupting , or ignoring . )
do not take an aac from some one . ( aac is our voice . taking our aac is like holding your hand over our mouths . )
if some one uses mouth words with you , do not expect constant oral speech from them in the future . ( not all people who use aac are nonspeaking / nonverbal . some people have access to oral speech occasionally . this does not make their use of aac any less needed or valid . )
similarly , please do not have a dramatic reaction , if hearing some one speak for the 1st time . ( more specifically with situational mutism , to some people , the fear of how other people will react to you speaking in front of them for the first time can make it more difficult to speak . giving an unwanted big reaction will only enforce that fear , making oral speech even harder in the future . )
do not treat use of aac like it is an inconvenience to you . ( do not complain about having to wait a bit for a response . do not say that you prefer when some one can use oral speech . )
do not ignore aac users or leave us out of conversations .
do not make fun of aac’s voice , how aac pronounces words , how fast / slow the aac reads , or any typos that were made . ( it is the same as bullying some one for their voice or for mis pronouncing a word , when using oral speech . use of aac does not mean lack of voice . or lack of mis pronunciation / mistakes . )
when self little, self would scratch claw claw people, self would spit at people, self would Hit own brother , and do no with meltdown
because brain see “you make brain no feel good and you want hurt me so want you leave bleed bleed for hurting self” , or “it cool see how strong self am and power of claw” “self is dragon breathe fire funny” ”play play play it funny it feel nice be strong”
and other thing, like want tear apart toy throw throw thing want break thing just because or it feel good
brain no understand and do thing because feel good. brain no understand (and still struggle understand) that people are people and can feel pain bad.
intervention important. intervention important
self when self feel pain sick, it no feel good, so human feel that too. this thogught no never automatic it always need be thing reminded tell self in brain. self hurt brother when very young and now feel bad understand no want people self care like, no like want see them hurt
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intervention , especially early is important important. it no is “make you no autism”
people like self need need taught by hand thing thing. there is people who need need taught right and wrong even obvious. and important to redirect . brain would no exist if no give proper learn
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autism can make brain ugly, autism can make brain ugly.
majority of hate violence abbandon hurt self face is from other autistic who deny brain no can be ugly
no, no people no need love ugly part, but it mean no should ever ever ever ever turn away from it. see and tell is first step to better , ignore is make brain ugly and hurt destroy
it hard, but it still hurt. if brain no can comprehend understand process and hurt person, self still hurt person and need told explain. moral out window
self brain ugly and many brain ugly. understand that is how start grow be better
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it still confuse that many many many no like experience this, self in different different world
hey, tumblr is doing this new weird shit about y2k. sudden and unexpected, it’s going to trigger those bothered by unreality (it’s trying to make it seem like it’s y2k presently. it triggered me)
if you have ublock origin, here’s the elements to block:
hope this helps. if you don’t block the bottom one specifically the “sticker” in the corner keeps coming back which can be even more triggering so. yeah
Also: if you click on the retro-Windows START button at lower left, it’s going to change your dash to a weird retro background, and it’s going to put a bunch of fake posts on your dash that are meant to look like they were written in the 90s.
There’s no OBVIOUS way to turn that off again, once you’ve clicked it. (It would be nice if a “STOP” button appeared in that fake-Windows control bar, but it doesn’t.)
So here’s how to get that to go away! Click on the little person icon at upper right. Normally you’d see “Change palette”. But if you’ve turned this “feature” on, you will see “Cruel Summer”. (Thanks, and now THAT is stuck in my head.)
Click on that, and go back to the palette you were using.
That turns off the fake 90s dashboard stuff. But it doesn’t make the fake-Windows bar at the bottom, or the animted “sticker” at lower right go away.
